There’s a quiet pain that lives in many Indian homes today — especially behind the smile of a young woman who is well-educated, cultured, and doing well in life, yet remains unmarried while everyone else around her moves on.

Her parents don’t always say it aloud, but they carry the weight in their hearts. And she? She often carries the stress alone — not because she is weak, but because she doesn’t want to burden her loved ones.

I write this as an elder — not as an expert or priest, but as someone who has lived through such times in my own family. I’ve seen my niece cry quietly after another proposal broke down without any clear reason. I’ve seen the growing silence at home when relatives ask, “So, when are the wedding bells ringing?” and no one knows what to say anymore.

When Everything Is “Perfect” — But Marriage Still Doesn’t Happen

In our community, a girl’s marriage is still seen as a major milestone — not just socially, but spiritually too. Yet, more and more girls today are finding themselves stuck in this unexpected space — where they’ve done everything “right”:

• Good education
• A respectable job
• Decent character
• Family support

And still, proposals fall through. Some get engaged and it breaks. Some get cheated. Some just don’t feel connected to anyone, and time passes quietly.

The worst part is, no one talks about it openly. Girls feel ashamed, parents feel anxious, and extended families start whispering. “Maybe she’s too choosy,” “Maybe there’s some dosha,” or “Maybe this is her karma.”

But let’s pause and reflect. Is this really her fault? Or are there deeper layers that we are not seeing?

The Shastras Don’t Blame — They Guide

In Sanatana Dharma, marriage is not just a contract — it is a union of souls for the journey of dharma, artha, kama, and moksha. When that union gets delayed, our scriptures don’t point fingers. They offer remedies, guidance, and inner strength.

They speak of Graha doshas (planetary issues), Pitru dosha (ancestral karma), and even past-life samskaras that can affect marriage. But instead of fear, the rishis gave us pujas, homas, and prayers to gently release these blocks.

Devi Parvati herself, in the Kena Kanda of the Vedas and in the Skanda Purana, is said to have performed tapasya to win the love of Bhagwan Shiva. That’s where the Swayamvara Parvati Homa comes from — it’s not just a ritual, it’s a re-enactment of that divine surrender and faith.

“I Just Want Peace, Uncle… Not Pressure.”

These were the words of a 32-year-old girl I met during a satsang in Pune. She was tired of hearing, “Time is running out,” and “Don’t be so picky.” What she longed for wasn’t a flashy wedding, but a peaceful life partner who respects her and walks beside her.

I told her what I tell many others — “Don’t let the world decide your pace. Let Bhagwan guide you.”

Later, she and her parents performed the Mangalik Dosha Nivaran Puja, as her chart showed Mangal in the 7th house. They did it with faith, not as a desperate act, but as a prayer. And in just a few months, she met someone through an old family connection — someone who had also gone through a broken engagement and was looking for a genuine bond.

Today, they are married — not without challenges, but with mutual respect and calm.

How JyotirGamaya Is Helping Families Walk This Path

Many people ask me, “Where can we get these pujas done properly?” And my answer is always — “Go to those who still walk the Vedic path sincerely.”

One such group is JyotirGamaya. They work with temple purohits who have been doing these rituals for generations. What I liked about them is — they don’t treat this like a business. They listen to your story, suggest the right puja based on birth details, and arrange for it to be done in sacred temples across India — Tamil Nadu, Karnataka, Varanasi, etc.

Some of the most requested sevas for marriage-related issues include:

• Swayamvara Parvati Homa – to attract a suitable life partner and remove karmic delays
• Uma Maheshwara Homa – for healing relationship pain and finding marital harmony
• Mangalik Dosha Nivaran Puja – to pacify Mars energy in the chart
• Pitru Dosh Nivaran Puja – to release ancestral blocks that delay marriage
• Durga Shanti Homa – for protection from negative energy or emotional interference

They take the sankalpa (intention) with the person’s name, gotra, nakshatra, and concern. The puja is not rushed. It’s done with proper vidhi and care. Photos or video are often shared as a record — but more than that, the energy of peace is what reaches the family.

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A Message to Parents and Daughters

If you’re a parent reading this — please do not rush or pressure your daughter. Her pain is already silent. Be her strength, not her source of fear. If you’re a young woman facing this yourself — know that you are not alone, and that Bhagwan sees you even when the world does not.

Let marriage not become a burden on your heart. Let it be a prayer offered with love and clarity.

And if there are delays, take refuge in Dharma. Do a sankalpa, offer a homa, chant a stotra — and then let go. Let Devi and Narayana carry the rest.

Because in the end, it is not society that decides your marriage — it is the grace of the Divine, which comes not always when we want, but always when the time is right.

With folded hands,
– An elder who still believes in the power of prayer.